Well, I'm gonna vent. Cos I feel like typing & who better to type to than you guys.

So it all started 3.5 months ago when my ex-girlfriend told me she was 1 month pregnant. I'm 23 she's 33. I didn't want kids & she really did. What can I say.... play with matches you get burned. So I make good money where I work & I live at home with the parents cos they are never home & we have a huge house..... so why move out. She owns her own place so we are both financially secure.
We try and make a go of this relationship again & again (bad move) but we just end up fighting and then we agree that it's best if we don't see each other & give this kid 2 parents that love it but not each other. So we go through the motions & we go and buy all the cot, the pram, the toy mat, all the gear. She had her 12 week check up & they said everything was fine and mum and baby were doing great. . . . 20 week check up, we get told that "your baby will dies after it is born, due to a heart abnormality". WHACK. So I take comfort in terminating it tomorrow will be there best thing to do. I was so adament from the start I didn't want a kid & now, after i had sort of adjusted to the fact, it is going to be killed. It's funny how when you become selfish it gets different grades. I think i'm at the top now, I never wanted a kid (& still dont) but that disregard of other peoples feelings will now add up to the death of a child. Anyway thats my bit.

Trev

 

You both have my sympathies. Both for your loss and the loss of your relationship together. Sometimes you just hafta trustthat the universe has a pretty good idea of what it's doin...

 

Thanks man. Appreciated.

 

im sorry to hear that, the world is a random place you dont kno why things happen or dont happen

 

Wow...im sorry to hear that. Yea....sometimes you just have to assume that things happen for a reason and thteres always something to look forwards upon..

--E

 

i am so sorry to hear this. wish we could do something to make this easier.

 

perfectly said.. the world has a funny way of working.. but in the end it all turns out okay.. bad things may seem bad now.. but they change your future for the better.. sometimes life is like an emotional roller coaster.. and you want to get off but dont worry life has a funny way of working

 

Thanks for all the kind words guys. Greatly appreciated, I knew you guys would make me feel better.

 

hang in there man. im really speechless right now.. things happen for a reason, thats all i know.

 

We are always here to help a member through tragic times.. we are like one big happy family