I don't know if I need to vent or if there's any advice anyone can actually give on this but here goes. I've no idea what to do at this point and neither do any of my friends or family.

Fall of 2018 moved in with my girlfriend. We had previously talked about selling both her house and mine and buying a 3rd house together so she knew when I moved in I wasn't planning for it to be years. After I moved in we discussed buying that new house in fall 2019. She stated that she didn't want to move over the summer so we could do hiking trips and such. Fine, made sense. After we got back from a trip in the spring I said that we had some time between then and summer to look at houses now and see what we could find. Would that work? She said yes. We talked to a mortgage guy, a real estate agent, and found a house we liked (or so I thought). Bought the house and moved in May. We agreed before we moved that after that we could clean out her old house and sell it as soon as we could.

Shortly after moving she had buyers remorse. Her commute was longer and she couldn't stand it. Hated the neighborhood (why I don't know). Kept saying we moved to the suburbs and she left the city. We had moved all of 4 miles but now she had to get on a highway to go to work. Our wedding is planned for June 2020 and she now regretted buying a house before we got married as well. She never finished cleaning out her old house and continued to pay the mortgage on it while it sat empty. We fought all summer and I got laid off last July. While unemployed she pitched the idea of getting married for insurance. I initially agreed but as the fights continued and the courthouse appt got closer I eventually backed out. I said we needed to resolve the living situation first.

Also she never finished unpacking when we moved. There are still boxes everywhere in the basement and nothing has moved or changed in months. She just stopped.

More months of fighting followed and she finally said she needed to not be emotionally involved with a house she hated so I agreed to refinance it and take her off the title and the loan. She signed the papers. Then said I needed to marry her before we could buy another house. In a moment of weakness I did and now I very much regret it.

Now she accuses me of ruining her credit because if she sells her old house her credit score will go down. She's now been paying a mortgage on an empty house for 8 months. She's purged none of her stuff (she's kind of a hoarder). Won't clean this house or organize it. Also caused property damage to it while I was out of town on a work trip a few months back. Threw stuff down the stairs and knocked holes in the walls.

So now she wants to move back to her old house which is the one thing I won't do. I've agreed multiple times to find a different house in her old neighborhood but she still won't sell the other one. Told me last night she may never be ready to give it up. I should also mention the old house is a piece of junk. It's a 1940s bungalow that's barely ever been updated. It needs new bathrooms, electrical, plumbing, kitchen, etc. It has very small closets and the basement is more or less unusable. My mom visited once and was appalled that I lived in it. It needs to be gutted at the very least and likely torn down. It was also dirty and my GF had let the dogs pee and poop all over rugs and tile and never really cleaned it. At one point I wiped windowsills and they were just black from dirt. The curtains are from the 80s. It's just gross basically. It needs new carpets and flooring too.

Right now she also doesn't pay any of the bills on the house we live in currently. I'm paying everything.

I'm in a mess and I have no idea how to get out.........:crying:

 

Why oh why did you even consider marrying her when things were such a mess? She is such a mess?

 

Lol, dude, how do I understand you! I've been married twice (how sorry I am about the first marriage, you can't imagine). I was 20 years old, and I was young and stupid. It so happened that I married a stupid and sloppy bitch who exhausted all my nerves. She had wealthy parents, and they gave us a house for the wedding. When we moved into this house, it was clean. That was the last time I saw him like this. She never cleaned and constantly gave me scandals. As a result, I got divorced and found my new wife. She offered to build a house instead of buying. I didn't understand anything about it, so she found it here herself https://www.boutiquehomeplans.com/ specialists, and we had only to invest money. Now I live with her like in Paradise. I think you should decide which is more important to you: a toxic relationship or your nerves. I wish you good luck and remember: you deserve the best!

 

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Just wait and see everything will be fine. LOL!

 

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